I had 2 'friends' from high school delete me as their friend on facebook because of the following conversation and their loyalty to Brian. I do need to point out that I was the first one to delete in this mess. I deleted Brian after all of his rude comments. He left the very last comment on this thread after he had been deleted from my fb page. I just feel like I am in high school all over again.
Spread the word to end the word!
Shauna at 9:40am March 31
Wow, you made me think about how many times I've said it with no intention of ever ridiculing someone. But, of course you're so right. I'm sorry...I will promise to stop now! :}
Brig at 9:50am March 31
agreed --- ever since working with special education groups in junior high, I've felt this same way. See this article on cnn: http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/03/20/obama.special.olympics/index.html
Brian at 12:12pm March 31
It's so retarded that someone didn't think about this campaign earlier.
Heather at 1:04pm March 31
Brian --that is exactly what this is about, but I guess I can't expect for you to understand how it feels when I hear that word used casually. It didn't always bother me, but that changed 6 years ago when my daughter was born with Down syndrome.
Sylvia at 2:14pm March 31
I didn't even know that was a word!
Heather at 2:23pm March 31
Sylvia--The R word is "retard" and "retarded".
Brian at 3:55pm March 31
I understand why your personal experience might warrant that perspective. I've never met an individual with Down Syndrome or any other condition that might garner the "R" word that could give a damn. They're happy, they're connected to source way more than any of us "normal" people, and, if they could, I would put money on them saying "this campaign is retarded—focus on running around and frolicking in the park. Look, like ME wheeee!"
Brig at 4:57pm March 31
wow, Brian I don't know who you are but you sound unbelievably insensitive. I guess you feel like you need the attention you get from provoking and hurting others.
Brian at 5:25pm March 31
Illustrating that these special beings are way more connected to source (read=God) and would never waste time signing petitions about things is not insensitive, in my opinion. Using the "R" word on an anti-"R" word post is just being ironic. It'll only serve to make a few people laugh—and a few more people sign your petition to spite me. So, I'm really just brightening the world a little here. :)
Sylvia at 5:32pm March 31
I was just pointing out that we don't use that word.....it isn't even a word to us!even a word to us!
Heather at 9:35pm March 31
Brian--apparently you have NOT met anyone with Down syndrome because there is so much more to each one of them than you imply with your comment that they are just happy and in a park running around. There are many people with Down syndrome that are behind this campaign and are great self advocates. But I honestly feel like any comment I make to you just isn't worth my time. It is obvious that you think you know what it is like to be a parent of a child with special needs. So I will leave it at that.
Mandy at 11:41am April 1
Good job Heather!! And I don't think your comment made anyone laugh Brian. It was rude.
Brian at 12:11pm April 1
Thank you, Heather. That makes total sense. I have met numerous people with Down's Syndrome. And, as mentioned twice before in this thread, I believe they are more connected to God than any "normal" people I have encountered. They are extremely special beings—and I don't know that I'd deem that extra 21st chromosome a disability. As a mother of one of these special beings, I'm certain you have witnessed, as have I, that they are some of our greatest teachers...To clarify, I don't think all with DS frolic in parks; it was a singular example to illustrate that they are, generally, impeccably happy, despite their perceived disabilities—which I find inspiring. I don't attach the label "retard" to anyone with DS or any other perceived mental disability. I only use the word by its purest definition: delayed reaction—or, in this case, delayed perception. So I will sign the petition, as it states "derogatory use of the word". I will leave it at that.
Heather at 12:32pm April 1
Thanks Brian! I definitely did not mean for this to be controversial or hateful! So I appreciate you taking the time to clarify your feelings.
Annette at 10:04pm April 2
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, however, we are trying to raise awareness that "special needs" is a better way to refer to people, the same way we are now refer to Indians as Native Americans, Black people as African Americans and so on. I think it is fantastic that some kids started this and after seeing the movie "Pay it Forward" I believe it is worth it to even change one person's derogatory use of the word.